I was told, to my great flattery, that I am 'one cool person I can be myself in front of'.
This has got me thinking.
Why is there the need to pretend at all?
Why do you want to make a lie of yourself and pretend you are something you are not, simply to impress another person?
Upon a little reflection, I do understand the need to impress someone. You want them to accept you no? And if they like xxxx, they would be more likely to accept you if you too liked xxxx.
But if you DON'T like xxxx, and instead liked yyyy, this would surely backfire on you sooner or later.
Why even bother to pretend then? It's a waste of time, and the lies eventually pile up and ...ew.
I dislike lies.A white lie, ok (but sometimes you have to ask what is a white lie?).
Not mentioning something -- technically not a lie, but depends how far you take it.
It simply baffles me why you want to pretend to be someone else just to get someone to like you. If you're honest from the start, then you know, from the start, whether this relationship is worth investing in.
But then, I'm the sort of person to invest in all sorts of relationships, whether I have stuff in common with them or not. Diversity rocks and all that jazz.
Besides, I've met a ton of
awesome people simply by being myself. They probably all think I'm a major dork (which I am), but I'm ok with that because ... well, because I think I'm a dork and don't particularly care that others think I'm a dork. If you become my friend and still think I'm a dork, I'm ok with that because in return, I get to think you're a dork for being friends with a dork. Get it? (LOL read that last paragraph out loud real fast.)
In the battle of truth vs. pretence, there just aren't enough pros for pretence for me.
It's easier to be yourself, than to pretend you're something you're not.
I'm grateful that I haven't been put in the position where I feel the need to pretend I'm something I'm not yet. I hope that day never comes.
Now, to the person who inspired this entry, if you happen to be reading it: I am, for one, glad that you have been yourself around me. Your inner-self is pretty awesome; not that I'd admit it to your face ... no need to inflate your ego :)
But basic thing I'm trying to express?
Be yourself.